Potty training is one of those things that has started to get a “normal” age (between 2 and 3), just like everything else. However, potty training is not like going to the doctor it requires a child be ready on a lot of levels. This is they have to mentally, psychically, and psychologically be on a level to control and understand going to the bathroom. Well me listing to “popular belief” when he started taking his clothes off. Not the first time he did it because he was 1 but the second time he showed interest in taking his clothes off I was thinking that is a “sign”. This was a common “sign” stated on the Parent magazine and Babycenter.com (and many sites in-between) as a sure sign they are ready to be potty trained. They were WRONG! Day two of potty training Noah and was so stressed out he stopped eating, drinking, set up under me all day, stopped taking his clothes off (still won’t help me get him undressed), and cried about everything. (Luckily, after the potty breaks within a few hours he was starting to get back to normal. However, he did not start drinking again until this morning.) I did all the fun stuff, let him pick out his potty, played with him on the potty, and all the other stuff you can think of to do with a two year old on the potty. I even went so far as going to the bathroom at the same time. The big question is “What did I learn?”
1) Why I do not listen to pop psychology and pop doctors. There is no one size fits all and even if a child can take their clothes off does not mean they have the wherewithal to understand peeing in a potty.
2) Reinforces the fact that I believe children should be potty trained when you can communicate with them. Not at two where they are not fully capable of getting some concepts.
3) Potty training is more stressful for him then it is for you. Yes potty training is stressful, but image how they feel they have been able to poop and pee where they want and at whatever time they want their whole life.
I am going to remember what I learned as I try this again in 8 to 12 months. When he can talk to me better about the concepts of poop and pee. I get that diapers are not cheap but this craze of potty training little children, so early that cannot even convey how they feel about it, makes no since to me. Yes some children are ready sooner then others but why push them if we do not have to. Noah is home with me and I would rather change diapers and have my independent, cookie, and drink monster, who is bouncing off the walls, then a stressed out crying toddler. What is one or two more years of diaper changing anyways? I have done it this long.