Sunday, January 18, 2015

"OMG Just Say A!"

I know we all think as parents “I hope I am doing this right”, and “why can that child say his ABC's and I can't even get my kid to say A.” You are thinking what I think “OMG I am screwing my child up.” Nothing about my child development class has the answer to how to raise the smartest, most outgoing, positive, happy child. There is no perfect way to raise a child when it comes to their development, but the one thing that has been repeated over and over is waiting until the child is ready. When I was reading the pushing children could not only slow development, but make a child not want to learn (Berk, 2009). I was sitting back going “YES! I am not screwing my kid up."

The fact is society wants to put children in this box where they need to have all this information before they want/need it. Children are learning and they are doing it as their brains become able to both store and use the information. I mean name a practical reason for a two year old to need to know all the ABC's, numbers, colors, and shapes? I could not come up with one reason for any of them. I am very happy that I waited to start teaching Noah his ABC's, numbers, colors, and shapes. Do not get me wrong Noah and I count, look at shapes, colors, and say his ABC's but we do not spend hours a day or everyday doing it. He has an agenda all set out and I think learning the norms, culture, earth, people, and himself take enough time as is.
So for all the parents thinking “OMG just say A!” breathe they are learning even if it is not fast or not something you can see every day.  Give yourself a break, and give your child the time to be a child. You are going to get to the school years soon enough. Enjoy the no school days while they last!


Berk, L. E. (2009) Child Development, 9th Ed.  Allyn and Bacon/Longman Publishers, Needham Heights, MA.

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Shakirah is a single mom to a 5 year old. She is a blogger, teacher, and graduate student. Her goal is to bring a more positive and realistic look into the lives of single mothers.

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