It is valentine’s Day this Saturday, with that and black history in mind I chose to write about one of the most popular article on Huffington Post titled “Why You're Not Married” and it was written by Tracy McMillan.
For those of you that know me you know I hate Huffington Post, facts are not checked, research is not referenced, and people feel like its hard “science.” I cannot count the amount of time I have argued with someone over the fact that you cannot quote a Huffington Post about psychology, its bulls**t.
Anyways, getting back to what I was saying the post was written talking to women about why it is they are not married it gives 6 reason why this may be.
1. You're a Bitch. FYI I hate the term bitch used to describe women I don’t care who says it. However, I do see why she said it and it does get your attention. I noticed a lot of African American women had a hard time with this one. Being an a**hole is not cute and you can’t get/keep a nice guy being like that so I agree with what she is saying. Being nice is not that hard.
But if you're not married, I already know it isn't.” I am a girl who has put pride in the fact that I date off of character, but if looks are not right under character on that list it is not going to matter how much you like his character. I get what she is saying but I personally have dated guys I was un-attracted to and you do not get more attracted to them because they are nice guys. Attraction and carter are a balancing act.You're Shallow. Tracy McMillan says “man's character should be at the top of the list,
5. You're Selfish. A person always just looking out for themselves is really a way to mess up a relationship. I agree with the fact that people do need to worry about others as well as themselves. I do not agree that everyone who has a child has that figured out like the post makes it out.
6. You're Not Good Enough.
What I love about the post is it makes you reflect on yourself. She is not pointing the finger at a guy and what he is doing wrong. The post is all about knowing you, and what you are doing wrong, and how you can fix it. While I really enjoyed the post I found the book to be better. It has a quiz at the beginning that you can take before you read the book. What I learned about myself from this book is that I have problem # 6 “You're Not Good Enough.
Tracy McMillan try’s and show relationships for a spiritual and understanding point of view. An example of this is with #2” when she talks about dating someone who was not her type. I totally agree with that you should try and not have a type, but you should not date someone you are not attracted to.
If you have not read the post you should do so, and maybe you should think about getting the book "Why You're Not married...Yet." I have made it through the first few chapters and I love it. I hate self-help books but this one is really funny, and identifiable. So I am going to give a copy away.a Rafflecopter giveaway
Disclaimer: This giveaway is for the USA and Canada.