The topic for the 29th day of my 30 day writing challenge is: Would people you have not seen in awhile say you have changed? The answer is both yes and no, some things about me have changed and others have stayed the same.
The big thing I have noticed people say about me now is that I do not give them enough time or that I am mean. I do not have a lot of friends who went off and had children so when they say “you do not make time” I say “I don’t care.” I find people without children are the first to say “you’ll make time if you care.” In reality as a parent you spend your time not only where it is needed most, but on someone else time. There is not a day where everything goes according to plan, children in a way dictate the parent’s time. As for me being mean I can live with that. I spent a long time bending over to make others happy and I got walked all over I’m not doing that anymore, and if it makes me mean, than I am mean.
The things that are the same, my ability to forgive and trust is still the same. I still trust people until they give me a reason not to. I can’t live in a world where no one is trust worthy. I forgive because I deserve it and that is not going to change. Somethings about use have to change but I feel my ability to forgive and trust are traits that I had as a child and I will most likely have as I age.