The topic for the 27th day of my 30 day writing challenge is: What are the worst things ever said to you? This question has been playing on my mind all day, some of the most hateful things I have heard have been after I become a parent. Everyone thinks their way is the right way and never think that if there was a book for how to raise a perfect child, we would all read it. The fact of the matter is there is no book, there is no perfect way, every family is different and what works for one will not work for another. Here are a few things I have heard over the last three years.
“You’re a b**ch and you’re going to kill your son.” Said because Noah was forward facing in his car seat at one and half and not two.
“You’re over protective.” Said because I will not listen to just any kind of music with Noah around me.
“You’re overbearing.” Said because I would rather be home with my son then on date.
“You’re coddling.” Said because I care what environment my child is in at all times.
“You’re spoiling him. Said because every time I go food shopping I get Noah two $6 trucks (FYI I go shopping every three to four weeks).
“You’re don’t love him.” Said because I chose to vaccinate and circumcise Noah.
“You’re insensitive.” Said because every time Noah cries I do not jump up to save him.
“You’re unattached to your child.” Said because I chose to formula feed and not to shower or take a bath with Noah.
“You’re not teaching how to be a man.” Said because I let Noah cry (because everyone thinks three year old should suck it up.)
“You’re going to make him gay.” Said because I happen to a gender neutral parent and if Noah wants his nails painted to match mine, guess what? I paint them.
“You’re setting him up to fail.” Said because I did not stay with his abusive father.
All I can say is I don’t care about what other people think. :)