I have been busy working in a 12 page essay, I have 5 pages done and it's due next week so you know I’m freaking out. There is no better way to give my brain a break then to share something I am learning in class. We are talking about communication!!! The building block to EVERY relationship in a person’s life. There are two types of communication styles that experts agree on assertiveness and responsiveness. How you communication with people will have great effects on how people interact with you, perceive you, and label you. Being a pushover will likely not get you to many "real" friends, just like being all about you will leave you alone. Is your communication style a push over or selfish, maybe you are a little bit of both. Take the quiz and find out!
indicate the degree to that this characteristics applies to you, as you normally talk with others, by marking whether you (5) strongly agree that it applies, (4) agree that it applies, (3) are undecided, (2) disagree that it applies, or (1) strongly disagree that it applies. There are no right or wrong answers. Record your first impression.
2. Defends own beliefs
4. Responsive to others
6. Has strong personality
10. Sensitive to the needs of others
14. Willing to take a stand
18. Acts as a leader
2, 3, 5, 6, 9, 11, 14, 18, 19, and 20 measure assertiveness. Add the scores these to get your assertiveness score. 1, 4, 7, 8, 10, 12, 13, 15, 16, and 17 measure responsiveness. Add the scores these to get your responsiveness score. Your scores should range from 50 to 10. The score that is the highest is the style you lean towards more. (James McCroskey and Virginia Richmond Sociocommunicative Orientation Test)
Let me know how you scored in the comments!
Assertiveness: is a trait where one is looking out for one’s own rights and best interests. This is done with communication by finishing task, asking questions, and making requests of others. It is often *considered a masculine style* that is not to say women cannot be assertive, but it is expected of men. Those who are Assertive are not afraid to ask for more information when confused or direct others to help them when they need it. (1)
Responsiveness: is a trait where one tends to focus on the relationships with others, they do this by being sensitive to others needs. One way a person is responsive is being other-oriented. That is they and sympathize with others, and sometimes place others feelings above their own. This is often *considered a feminine * style that is not to say men cannot be responsive, but it is expected of women. (1)
*This is based off of American ideas of feminine and masculine. This can vary from subcultures in America, to different parts of the world. In some parts of the world assertive is considered a feminine and masculine trait. In tribe in Africa assertive is considered a feminine trait. This is a fun test but by no means can apply to all.* (1)
(1) Beebe, S.A., Beebe, S.J. & Redmond, M.V. (2011). Interpersonal Communication: Relating to Others (6th ed.). Boston, Massachusetts: Pearson Education, Inc.
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