Is your communication style Assertive or Responsive? (Quiz)

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

I have been busy working in a 12 page essay, I have 5 pages done and it's due next week so you know I’m freaking out. There is no better way to give my brain a break then to share something I am learning in class. We are talking about communication!!! The building block to EVERY relationship in a person’s life. There are two types of communication styles that experts agree on assertiveness and responsiveness. How you communication with people will have great effects on how people interact with you, perceive you, and label you. Being a pushover will likely not get you to many "real" friends, just like being all about you will leave you alone. Is your communication style a push over or selfish, maybe you are a little bit of both. Take the quiz and find out!


Directions:
indicate the degree to that this characteristics applies to you, as you normally talk with others, by marking whether you (5) strongly agree that it applies, (4) agree that it applies, (3) are undecided, (2) disagree that it applies, or (1) strongly disagree that it applies. There are no right or wrong answers. Record your first impression.

1. Helpful
2. Defends own beliefs
3. Independent
4. Responsive to others
5. Forceful
6. Has strong personality
7. Sympathetic
8. Compassionate
9. Assertive
10. Sensitive to the needs of others
11. Dominant
12. Sincere
13. Gentle
14. Willing to take a stand
15. Warm
16. Tender
17. Friendly
18. Acts as a leader
19. Aggressive
20. Competitive

Scoring:
2, 3, 5, 6, 9, 11, 14, 18, 19, and 20 measure assertiveness. Add the scores these to get your assertiveness score. 1, 4, 7, 8, 10, 12, 13, 15, 16, and 17 measure responsiveness. Add the scores these to get your responsiveness score. Your scores should range from 50 to 10. The score that is the highest is the style you lean towards more. (James McCroskey and Virginia Richmond Sociocommunicative Orientation Test)



My results
Assertiveness:  33
Responsiveness: 42

Let me know how you scored in the comments!

Style

Assertiveness:  is a trait where one is looking out for one’s own rights and best interests. This is done with communication by finishing task, asking questions, and making requests of others. It is often *considered a masculine style* that is not to say women cannot be assertive, but it is expected of men. Those who are Assertive are not afraid to ask for more information when confused or direct others to help them when they need it. (1)

Responsiveness: is a trait where one tends to focus on the relationships with others, they do this by being sensitive to others needs. One way a person is responsive is being other-oriented. That is they and sympathize with others, and sometimes place others feelings above their own. This is often *considered a feminine * style that is not to say men cannot be responsive, but it is expected of women. (1)

*This is based off of American ideas of feminine and masculine. This can vary from subcultures in America, to different parts of the world. In some parts of the world assertive is considered a feminine and masculine trait. In tribe in Africa assertive is considered a feminine trait. This is a fun test but by no means can apply to all.* (1)

References


(1)   Beebe, S.A., Beebe, S.J. & Redmond, M.V. (2011). Interpersonal Communication: Relating to Others (6th ed.). Boston, Massachusetts: Pearson Education, Inc.
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38 comments

  1. Assertive 24
    Responsive 46
    I'm going to get my husband to do this about me see what he comes up with. great quiz love it.

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    1. Thank you, and let me know how your husband scores.

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  2. I was a speech major in college. I find communication so fascinating. My husband was a communications minor, so it's still something we talk about often!

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    1. That is awesome to be honest I never really thought about. :/ I am glad I decided to take the class.

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  3. I love stuff like this! I'm definitely assertive and my husband is definitely responsive.

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  4. I'm pretty darn assertive.

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    1. Me too, we bleed compassion.

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  6. This is so insightful! I definitely learned something new about myself tonight. I thought I was responsive, but I found out I was assertive. I guess I have some things to work on, like being more compassionate.

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    1. That is amazing that you could learn something new about yourself. Being compassionate is like be assertive it has its pros and cons. If its not broke don't fix it :)

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  7. I am gonna let my family do this too. I'll come back to you with the whole family result

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    1. Can't wait to see how the family scored!

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  8. Love this! I am responsive and my partner is assertive. I guess we are your typical American couple.

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  9. This was such a great quiz! I am more responsive! I am going to keep this for reference. Thanks.

    Brittany
    www.BeckyandBrittany.com

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    1. I am happy you enjoyed it. (I really enjoy your blog by the way I will be trying to make that pie very soon, looks so good.)

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  10. I think I'm assertive but I'll be back to take this quiz when my little ones go to bed. I love discovering more about how I communicate!

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    1. I understand that! LOL Children keep you on your toes.

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  11. Thanks for the quiz, super interesting!

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    1. You are welcome, thanks for taking it.

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  12. I'm definitely more responsive...but assertive when communicating with my partner. Haha. Maybe I should let him take this quiz, too.

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    1. You bring up an interesting thing about how different styles when dealing with different people.

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  13. I found myself answering the questions how I wanted to be perceived rather than how I actually think. I like the idea here, but I think it's a bit difficult to judge yourself on some of these traits. I'd be interested to see how someone else rates me!

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    1. That is something very amazing to notice. In psychology these assessments are never taken alone. Some of the most accurate are more than 20 because the ability to answer the question as you want wears off the longer you take the assessment. I wish I could have shared another one I took but it cost $150 to just take it the thing. (I did not pay for that it was free for my class.)

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  14. This is AWESOME! I'm assertive! But I knew that! lol

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    1. Thanks, LOL I am glad the assessment only told you what you knew.

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  15. So neat! Can't wait to get my hubs to do this with me!!!

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    1. Let me know how you both score.

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  16. Who knew , I am assertive, excellent and really got my family talking about this

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    1. I did not think I was as assertive as I am. I am happy I got you and family talking lol.

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  17. Assertiveness-42
    Responsiveness-49

    This was interesting & fun. Thanks for posting :)

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  18. Thanks for taking it I always love seeing what people scored. You have a really good balance going on.

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  19. Great quiz. My scores were 27(A) and 49(R). I was surprised I didn't score higher on assertiveness but the score for responsiveness was spot on. I've been a nurse for 22 years and love my job. This is a great tool for those who would like to know what career they would enjoy.

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    1. You are so right knowing some things about yourself will really help knowing what fields will make you happy to work in. I am glad you stopped by and enjoyed the post!

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