I am listing to/watching: Will Young “85 Proof” (album)
Mood: loved, groggy,
Time: 8:48 am
I know what you are thinking, “aren’t you in school for psychology?” The answer is yes I am. To some the fact that I have not had my son diagnosed with a Sensory Processing Disorder is flat out weird. However, I have my reason. A lot of people do not know this but for something to truly be classified as a mental illness it has to have two components:
- It must be against cultural norms. When I hear this I hear conform, believe it are not many American disorders do not translate into other countries or even its sub-culturals in America. Schizophrenia in some Latin cultural's is okay, talking with “spirits” or hearing “spirits” is not only okay but not seen as normal.
- It must cause distress or effect that person’s life in a negative way. This is the end all be all of a disorder for me, if it causes some kind of pain the person needs help. But like with Schizophrenia in some Latin culture’s if it not causing them or another harm why label them as ill? Why should they have to carry that around? Before you go to thinking “Well they really should see a doctor” think about it like this. Being gay was a mental disorder that only followed being against cultural norms, the same is true for many sex “disorders”. They are not causing distress outside of the fact other people have an opinion about it. I don’t feel that is enough of a reason to call something a disorder. You have a foot fetish, like wearing women’s clothing, or whatever I don’t care.
When it comes to Noah I think if he was a girl a second thought would not be given about if he has a Sensory Processing Disorder. He does not hand paint, play in the mud, touch stuff that you would think a boy would touch (everything). If you toke away his sex most people would just think he is a clean child. What we are seeing here is labeling and gender stereotyping and one of the reasons he has not been diagnosed. He should not be diagnosed as ill because he knows what feels nasty to him, it may be more than what other children feel, but every child is different. The second reason he has not been diagnosed is because is it really having a negative effect on him? I did not force him nor allow others to force him to do things he is not okay with. As his mother I feel it is my job to make him love all of himself even his texture sensitivity.
I am not saying I do not believe in the diagnoses of mental illness I have a mother with PTSD, bipolar disorder, and OCD so I strongly believe if you have something going on in getting help. However, I feel adults don't always deal with labeling how is a child supposed to? Remember everyone is different.