Wednesday, February 3, 2016

5 Easy Ways to Stay Sexually Safe Dating

I am listening to/watching: CSI: Cyber S 1, E 11,
Mood: Loved, Tired, Anxious
Time: 8:38 pm

As women we hear about rape or a woman getting attacked, and Law and Order:SVU does not help with the underlying fear it could happen to us. this fear is more real when you are dating. You could be online dating, speed dating, or blind dating the worry is there. Here are 5 tips to stay sexually safe dating.

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Meet in public/away from home: Do not let someone know where you live before you feel safe. You do not want anyone just popping up at your home. Make sure you feel safe with the person knowing where you live. Also do not just meet in public meet somewhere where if you need help you could get it.
Don’t drink anything you did not see get made: If you go to a bar or a restaurant only take your food and drinks from the people working there. Also if you leave your drink with the person don’t drink it, order a new drink. I know it sounds like much but this is your safety we are talking about.
Let people know where you are: Facebook, twitter, Google +, and many other sites allow you to tell people where you are. If you are not cool with that (i.e. your ex is social network stalking) take a picture of the guys licenses plate and text a friend or family member where you are. If you leave and go somewhere let someone know. 
Leave when you feel unsafe: I do not care who pays for what, takes time to do what, or how much it cost if you feel unsafe leave. I have walked out on dates many times, if you feel the person may become violent don’t say anything or say you are going to the bathroom and leave. 
Do not over share information: This is even harder to do when dating online, but do not give details about your life that could put you in harm’s way. Don’t tell where you work, who your friends are, your SSN, address, you know stuff like that. Be very mindful of what you share, if you want to share something personal ask yourself, "if we were talking in person would I give this information?"
If you have any tips for staying safe when dating, please leave a comment below. 

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Shakirah is a single mom to a 5 year old. She is a blogger, teacher, and graduate student. Her goal is to bring a more positive and realistic look into the lives of single mothers.


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