Friday, January 20, 2017

"I am a Survivor" (Domestic Violence Healing) a Milestone Journal (Giveaway)

This week I am talking about healing from domestic violence. Leaving an abusive relationship no matter what kind of abuse is hard. When I left my sons father I found myself trying to heal overnight and say that I was fine when anyone asked. I did not on a day to day bases feel like I was “damaged” from everything that happened. However, as time went on in parts of my life the scares were there and visible.
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I had issues with trusting men, my son was never out of my sight (even at four he has only spent 5 days overnight away from me, and all spaced out), I was/am so anxious about my ex popping up, but by far my worst fear was ending up in another bad relationship (romantic or not). Some of these things I am still trying to overcome but others I have dealt with and it all happened by looking inside of myself. I did this by using journals with prompts like “All About Me: The Story of Your Life” By Philipp Keel.

I know that sounds crazy but I filled out a journal like All About Me when I was 19. It was a lot of fun, but nothing life changing. However, after the abusive relationship, becoming a mom, and pretty much nothing in my life going to plan the journal made me ask myself some questions. You can lose who you are and it happens so fast, and it can take a lot longer to find yourself again.

With that said starting a few months ago I have started Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration” by Meera Lee Patel.  I do not fill this out everyday but I fill it out when I am feeling stuck or just need to change where my thoughts are going. One this journal has help me realize is that I really do not want to get married again. I am still debating if I even want to ever live with a man again. If you take the questions and answer them honestly to yourself this journal is very insightful. I am realizing my dreams from even a four years ago are not the same. I am growing and changing and that is okay.
In this picture I was coloring on the map the top ten places I would like to visit.

There was something I could not find when I started looking for journals and that was one geared towards those healing from an abusive relationship. I was really bummed at the idea that I debated for over a year on creating one.When women, men, children leave an abusive home it is only the start of a new journey, so in the end I have created a journal just for women who survived domestic violence.

This journal showcases the small milestones you make when you begin to find yourself, a healthy life, and some ways to not fall back into old ways.

I am so pleased with how these journals have helped me heal, self reflect, and grow that along with the Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration I will also be giving away a free hard copy of I am a Survivor a Milestone Journal.

"I am a Survivor" (Domestic Violence Healing) a Milestone Journal (Giveaway)

If you would like to support me and my new shop you can buy “I am a Survivor a Milestone Journal” (download) for $5 (US).

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Shakirah is a single mom to a 5 year old. She is a blogger, teacher, and graduate student. Her goal is to bring a more positive and realistic look into the lives of single mothers.


  1. It's wonderful that you have been able to take such a painful experience and use it to help others.

  2. I've been there and I remember people telling me I was brave and I thought really? I didn't feel brave at all I stayed for 13 years and in the end I was fighting back and that made me feel worse.

    1. I am glade you got out.

  3. There are many reasons why women may not leave. She may not have enough financial resources to live away from her spouse. She may not have a place to live